We arrived at our campsite well after dark. The rodeo had been a much-anticipated highlight of our cross-country trip, and no one was in a hurry to stop talking about it — or to crawl into our sleeping bags.
It’s a good thing, too, because standing where our tent should have been was a small gathering of fellow campers. One was setting up our lawn chairs and three others were headed in our direction, dragging a pile of fabric that looked like . . . our tent.
The six of us piled out of the mini-van into the glow of our headlights. My eight-year-old took my hand.
Kind neighbors informed us that while we were gone a tornado had swept through the campground throwing tents and camping equipment in every direction. Our tent had been completely uprooted, leaving behind all its stabilizing ropes and anchoring pegs, and landing in a heap several sites away.
Beside me, a small voice quavered, “Does this mean we have to go home?”
Cobbling together a plan on the fly, my husband and I tag-teamed a way forward:
“We’re going to gather our sleeping bags . . .”
“We’ll pack up all our gear . . .”
“And we’ll find a hotel in town, back where we watched the rodeo!”
“Tomorrow we’ll buy a new tent, first thing.”
By the time we had loaded the last cooler, everyone was visualizing the luxury of a hotel shower. (Especially me!)
Apparently when you show up in a hotel lobby at 1 a.m. with four dusty kids, they’re willing to bend the rules about maximum occupancy. We arranged ourselves somewhere on or around two king-sized beds and, amazingly, we slept.
Fortified by a quick breakfast of yogurt and bagels, we bought a tent at a big box store and hit the road, because now we were not merely travelers. We were tent-tornado survivors, and we would persevere.
Earlier in the trip, teenage squabbles might have derailed us. Slow-drying beach towels twirling in tired campsite laundromats might have dampened our spirits. The perennially squashed hot dog buns in our crowded mini-van might have seemed like an impossible hardship before, but post-tornado, we began to see ourselves as adventurers on the open road. For this privilege, we could eat the odd squashed bun.
We had started our vacation behaving as if there was a “right way” to do this cross-country journey, a perfect itinerary to follow, and a “correct approach” to the family road trip. We read every word of the historical markers, looked in every corner of every museum, and collected brochures for future school projects. Please understand that this was not a matter of capturing teachable moments – this was a case of ambushing them and wrestling them to the ground.
Sometimes it takes a tornado to make you realize that you are driving your kids (and yourselves) crazy. Intentionally, we backed away from perfect. We began to get off the highway more often. As our mini-van devoured the miles, we spotted our first cactus on the way up Scott’s Bluff. We stalked cicadas that sounded like artillery fire in the muggy southeastern darkness, and we marveled at mockingbirds that apparently spend every waking moment fine-tuning their repertoire.
We made crazy Hail Mary phone calls to camp sites, hoping at the last minute to be able to pitch our tent near a place we had fallen in love with. After all, if Mt. Rushmore is stunning at sunset, what will it look like in early morning light?
The unclenching of my fists around the idea of the perfect vacation signaled the opening of my hands to The Given. Designed by a wild, incomprehensible, and totally-other God, we are, nonetheless, a family of imperfection – and delight!
We are museums, and we are rodeos.
We are McDonald’s hamburgers, and we are fresh Washington state cherries eaten alongside the road.
We are wild, whirling winds; and we are dark, peaceful night skies announcing that God really did “hang the earth on nothing.”
Our vacation was not perfect, but neither are we.
We had brought ourselves along for the journey.
And we were glad to have us.
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Photo by Jason Blackeye on Unsplash
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I loved this Michele! When our kids were little, we camped out and did a lot of things on the fly. It makes you stop and think of what is most important: being perfect or making wild and crazy memories. We often laugh at those years. You brought me back to them. Just as the Lord changes our life, we change things accordingly.
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Yes – and lately we are sniffing evening air and saying to each other, “This would be a good night to sleep in the tent.” So who knows? We may get that thing out and set it up in the yard one of these days!
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If perfect is in the eye of the beholder I behold that this post was perfect!
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Thanks so much!
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Michele,
I admire your family’s perseverance to press onward even though your vacation was taking on a Grizwoldian flair lol. Often it’s in the detours and the roads we weren’t expecting to travel that we meet up with God. Life is imperfect. We are imperfect. Why should we expect our vacation to be perfect?? Good thought as we get ready to head on ours. I will keep an open mind….thank you!
Blessings,
Bev xx
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Yes to that open mind! And it encourages us to see life as an open road!
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I think you’ll look back on that vacation one day and think it was pretty darn perfect! You handled it well and the tornado made it memorable. Hugs, Patti
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I got a phone call from one of the boys a few minutes ago. He said it was fun to read the post because he was seeing the vacation from the parents’ point of view for the first time. That was a gift, for sure!
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OhMyGoodness, a tornado? I can’t even believe the other campers found what was left of your things!
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Well . . . the tent ended up in the dumpster, but fortunately everything stayed in it as it was tossed, so we made a messy pile of it all in the back of the minivan and sorted it out in the morning in daylight while the boys slept.
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And I just have to make this my feature, because my camping-crazy self still can’t believe you experienced this! #FridayFrivolity
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You’re one of the few people who has read this post and resonated with the camping aspect! Thanks for featuring!
Blessings to you and a Fun Friday to come!
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This is beautiful. I love your description at the end saying “we are museums, we are rodeos…”.
You have such a gift Michele. Thank you for sharing it with all of us.
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Thanks, Mary, my encouraging friend. As a fellow boy-mum, I’m sure you’ve got lots of memories of perfectly imperfect days as well.
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Michele, you’re such a good writer. And good woman. Loved this. Makes me wish our family could do a cross-country trip…but, two are already grown. Hoping to take a special trip with our youngest in the next year, though. It’s fun having one still at home alone, he’s become our little side kick (even though he’s taller than we are!) I’m sure you know the feeling. 🙂 Thanks for sharing, friend. ((xoxo))
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I sure do! We will have just one at home starting next week, and I’m happy to hear you talking about your experience of this with such positive thoughts — I’m hoping our “little side kick” is going to be ok with hanging out with his mum and dad so much of the time. And the timing on the cross country trip was all gift. Our youngest had just graduated from a booster seat in the car, our oldest did not yet have a job that tied him down, and the two middle guys were up for anything, so we carpe’ed the glorious deum and hit the road.
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The grandkids come along and then you get to do the road-trips again, with them! Have just been to Yellowstone with kids and grands. It was incredible to be sharing our family memories with the next generation. Hang on to your tents!
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Yellowstone! What a great thing to do with the generations. Definitely will hang on to the camping gear. I’m not done yet!
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Oh, I LOVED this post!! It is so liberating to let go of “perfection”, or our visions of it. Life is so much better-lived to just take it moment by moment…just like Jesus taught by His example how to live. I think often of the many times He was “interrupted” while on His way to do something for someone. He treated each interruption as exactly what it was…a Divine interception, God having His perfect way in a day in the life of His Son on earth. If only we lived our lives this way…in total acceptance of His ordering of our every circumstance…we would never complain, and stress would be non-existent. Thank you for this wonderful food for thought!
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Great insights, Cheryl, on the difference between interruptions and God’s gracious interceptions. I need to practice this humility of thinking in my everyday schedule management!
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Michele, I always love hearing your personal adventure stories! Along with all the memories that get stirred up in my own heart, those gifts of God’s Grace seep over all the cracks too! And, while I was hoping that I might find energy to join in for some of the upcoming book study, today’s quote clinched it for sure: I think I am being led to come along again! 🙂 Enjoy your last few days of summer my friend! xoxo
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I’m SO excited, Bettie. The discussion group would not be the same without you.
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Tent-tornado survivors! Scary! But I love how what could have frightened you off the road opened your eyes to the beauty found in imperfection. Great memory!
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Vacations like that become a better memory every year!
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It sounds imperfectly perfect – my favorite!
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Does it make you excited for your road trip coming up in #2020?
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Thanks for the reminder that vacations don’t have to be perfect. I still struggle with that idea at times, though I am getting better. 🙂
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If we wait until perfect happens, we might wait forever . . . And that’s true of things other than vacations, right?
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Wow! That sounds like quite a vacation! I have been trying to be more intentional about just letting our vacations happen instead of planning the heck out of them in the hopes of having a “perfect vacation.” I’m finding that flexibility helps make for a less stressful vacation; which makes it pretty perfect in my book.
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Oh, my friend, I LOVE this story!! Someday I will tell you a funny vacation story of our first trip West. You and I appear to plan vacations similarly, but by the time we took the trip I recall so well we had already decided tent camping would not work for the long trek. (Yes, we had tried it on two previous shorter trips😂.)
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I loved this! I’ve never met a tornado tent survivor! It does remind me of one very stormy camping night for me and my husband before we had children. It may be the reason I never really went camping after that! Loved your imperfect vacation story. It warmed my heart!
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Thanks, Leslie! I’ve had so much fun sharing it!
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Loved this! The story filled me with joy. And this: “The unclenching of my fists around the idea of the perfect vacation signaled the opening of my hands to The Given.” I need to remember this constantly. As we load our moving truck and leave California behind, these lessons will remind me to open my hands and heart to God’s plan instead of my own.
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It makes me so happy to think that the Lord timed this post to coincide with your journey, Debbie! It’s an everyday battle to open our hands and hearts to the plan of God. Rejoicing with you!
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Having never camped or slept in a tent, Michele, I loved this post for several reasons. Amazing to read of God’s hand of protection upon you all. But then, to take this imperfect moment and make it perfect by persevering … I bet a life lesson was learned by you all. Blessings!
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Definitely! And I’m always surprised at how many people have never done a camping adventure.
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I think this might be my favorite thing you’ve ever written, from the squashed hotdog buns to the kind-sized beds, you are a gifted writer and a gracious woman. This is how I function too, it takes the big catastrophes to make me get over the little ones. The metaphorical tornadoes to shake my grip off the days.
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After reading this comment this morning, I just sort of sat with it for a minute because it was so overwhelmingly encouraging. Just getting back now to thank you.
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Hi there! Not sure I will be able to keep up, but I will join you with Jayber Crow. I bought the book and am into ththe third chapter and am fascinated by the “voice” of the author. 😊
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Love that you’re going to be joining us. We’re going to be taking a leisurely pace, and if you’ve read into the third chapter, you’re already through the first week in September!
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I can only travel in a virtual world now,and really enjoyed coming along on this trip. Thanks, Michele!
https://blessed-are-the-pure-of-heart.blogspot.com/2017/08/your-dying-spouse-355-feel-free-to-dance.html
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Michele, another soul-riveting post. Amazing story and love these two thoughts: We backed away from perfect; The unclenching of my fists around the idea of the perfect vacation signaled the opening of my hands to The Given. Blessings!
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Thanks, Karen! Still persevering in the “unclenched” life!
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Great post!
Once when we were camping we had a torrential downpour.
We had a camper, but our neighbors had a tent.
Their suitcases actually were floating outside their tent.
The next morning those same people went and bout a camper.
No more wet sleeping bags or suitcases.
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Ha! We were so blessed with good weather on that trip!
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Reblogged this on The Mimosa Blossom.
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I love your writing style and your wisdom which shines through. Thank you for an awesome rendition of your adventures.
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Thanks, Dr. Miriam! Great memories!
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That’s the joy of travel, just going with the flow and embracing the unexpected!
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It’s in the interruptions where we truly find the gems, isn’t it? I think we all need to “back away from perfect” some! Love this story and the principle you weaved out of it. Thank you for sharing, Michele!!
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Always good to hear from you, Esther! Blessings on this Tuesday!
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What a story! And I love the idea of backing away from the perfect ideal in our head to embrace (step-by-step) the perfect of the moment!
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Step by step. Yes, I’m smiling over this, because 7 years later, I’m still learning this lesson. Thanks for reading, Becky!
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What a wonderful and wonderfully told story! It made me yearn for my children’s childhood and (somewhat) simpler times. Thanks so much for blessing us all with this.
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Thanks, Donna. I feel that way already and it’s only been 7 years. A lot has changed in the Morin household since then, but so much good!
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Michele, you are a beautiful writer. I’m so glad I found you on the #gritup writers collective. We recently became empty-nester glampers. I’ve never been very good with tents, but a tiny house on wheels I love! We also drove across the country. We had no tornado tangos, but we did have a fight with a dumpster and lost. Perspective is everything. Camping will teach you that! I will be back. Thank you for the soul reading today. ~ andy lee
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Andy, this comment is so uplifting. Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to read. I’m trying to picture that dumpster rumble . . . 🙂
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Love THIS: ‘We had brought ourselves along for the journey.
And we were glad to have us.’ How often do we let out expectations foul our fellowship! If a journey doesn’t engender growth, it’s just a trip.
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Well said! And we need more “hobbitish” kinds of adventures in our lives!
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We have had many of those not “perfect vacations” that had problems cropping up rather regularly, but oh, what wonderful fun and memories. 🙂 The funny thing is that now, as we look back on them, they seem “perfect”…… probably because we shared those experiences and we made it… and we laugh together about them now. The kids keep asking when can we go on a trip again. 🙂
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Yes, the shared laughter, the resilience of forging ahead together! So great! Thanks for sharing your memories too!
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As someone who spent her youth venturing cross country with my family in a car and then in RVs, I’m so glad you let your hair down and relaxed. I’ve spent more time finding places to tour than I even knew existed. And it’s such a treat to be able to spend a few more or less nights somewhere unexpected. #GlobalBlogging
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That was the best part of the trip! And, truly, some of our best memories are of doings that were completely unplanned and unexpected.
Thanks, Heather, for adding your thoughts to the conversation! What a great childhood experience!
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This post touched my heart today! Thanks for sharing this at Booknificent Thursday on Mommynificent.com!
Tina
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I’m sure you could share MANY stories about Chen family road trips!
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We are tent-tornado survivors 🙂 Love that! Sometimes it’s great to veer of the road of perfection! So pleased you had a wonderful time! #globalbogging
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We too have had our share of near death experiences while vacationing. It sounds like many lessons were learned.
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Vacations are certainly an opportunity to “embrace the unexpected.” 🙂
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I’m a planner at heart and my hubby is much better at the spontaneity of and imperfect vacation! Great words to ponder! Blessings!
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It’s the same scenario in this house, Liz. I guess opposites attract!
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Thought you might like to know that you have a fan-girl at #ChasingCommunity this week who shared this link. 🙂 Hope you have a great holiday weekend, friend. xoxo
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What fun! Thanks for letting me know!
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You have been gifted in the art of story-telling, of making the real that you lived become a lesson that teaches more than just yourself. I love that about your love for words and stringing them together. I love that you share them with me each week!
Thank you!
Blessings,
Dawn
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Oh, thank you so much, Dawn. What a wonderful encouragement!
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You have no idea how much I sympathize with your trekking tales girl!
Thanks for linking up to #globalblogging!
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This sounds like a fantastic adventure! I’m in the planning stages of some extended family travel and with 5 kids I’m sure there’ll be no shortage of stories like yours! Thanks for sharing! ❤️
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We get questions all the time along the lines of , “How did you DO that with four kids?” And to tell you the truth, it would not have been nearly as much fun or as memorable without those four whirling dervishes that share our DNA!
Blessings to you as you plan and prepare.
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Imperfections do make everything perfect! Please read this post as to how it is the imperfections that make all perfections appreciable: https://columntribe.wordpress.com/2017/11/16/nature-is-perfect-in-its-imperfections/
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