We came to this country hill in winter. I quit my job one day, and the next day we loaded a UHaul truck with books, furniture, and life as I understood it. Six days later, I became a mother. Change piled upon change, and for a while, who-I-was and what-was-expected-of-me in this new life became a daily mystery to be solved.
I didn’t know that bustling, energetic planners could experience post-partum depression, and I certainly did not understand the consequences of multiple super-imposed transitions. Eventually, it became clear to me that God was the only element of this equation who had not changed, and the me who had traded in her brief case for a diaper bag began to recognize his role in orchestrating this gift of uprooting and replanting.
God’s extravagant grace has met Gina Brenna Butz as well in her messy seasons of transition. In sharing her experiences, Making Peace with Change has become the breadcrumb trail Gina has left behind, leading the way toward peace and wholeheartedness in the midst of the challenge of change. Admitting that it was hard and then bringing her heart full of doubt and resistance to God was her first step toward peace.
I’ve harvested several valuable principles from her work that I wish I’d had in place twenty-six years ago, and, given that change is inevitable, I am certain that you, too, will benefit from these anchors in truth:
1. Your season of change is an assignment from God.
Lord, You have assigned my portion and my cup, and have made my lot secure”
Elisabeth Elliot found peace in this truth as well during a season of upheaval: “It is in our acceptance of what is given that God gives Himself.”
2. God is good, even if we do not see it.
If you believe in his sovereignty, take the next step and embrace his goodness.
The Lord is good,
a stronghold in the day of trouble;
he knows those who take refuge in him.” (Nahum 1:7)
3. Feelings of loss are real.
The losses that come with transition are God’s way of “calling us to find ourselves in a deeper place, on the solid ground of who He is and who we are in Him.” (47) You are greater than the sum of your accomplishments, but it is also true that you should not ignore your grief. The Bible models lament when our own words won’t come, and, often, true acceptance and peace lie on the other side of grieving what has been lost.
4. Pay attention to your desires.
The desires that bubble to the surface during times of transition will reveal your true heart. Are you responding with anger? Are you tempted to escape present circumstances by checking out mentally or self-medicating with NetFlix (or worse!)? Pay attention to your responses, give them a name, and bring them into the light.
If you are currently walking through a season of transition, embrace the unknown. Making Peace with Change requires a faith-based leaning in to the process of growth God has initiated. Realizing (and admitting) your weakness is the doorway to discovering God’s strength. He longs to make all things new, and he has begun that process right here, right now as you trust him for today’s assignment with today’s grace.
Many thanks to Our Daily Bread Publishing for providing a copy of this book to facilitate my review, which, of course, is offered freely and with honesty.
Grace and peace to you,
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