“Hey, we have a lot in common! Maybe we should meet for coffee?”
Coming from Facebook, a place where “friendship” usually remains distant and virtual, this was startling content. Add to that a full schedule and a hard bent toward introversion, and there was every reason for me to log off, click on “unfriend,” and run like crazy. The risk of a face-to-face meeting with a total stranger is way outside my comfort zone, and yet the outcome, in this case, was a real-life friendship and a lesson in self-care.
Even with open laptops and a list of technical topics for discussion, when I meet with this particular friend, the percent of time devoted to “business” may be pretty low. Conversations meander as coffee cups are emptied and refilled. I almost always come away from face-to-face time with friends enriched and encouraged in a way that transcends even the satisfaction that would have come from spending that time hammering away at my to-do list. We gauge the temperature of each other’s hearts, and somehow our faith is shaped in the context spiritual friendship.
A partner in prayer, another set of eyes, a companion in trouble: these are the benefits of spiritual friendship, and today at April Yamasaki‘s writing home, I am arguing for the benefits of curating an environment that allows us to go deep in each other’s lives. Click here to keep on reading. I think you’ll agree that friendship as self-care is a refreshing way to look at the time we spend with the important people in our lives.
April Yamasaki is a fellow member of the Redbud Writers Guild, and I’m glad to be teaming up with her today because I learned a lot from her book, Four Gifts: Seeking Self-care for Heart, Soul, Mind, and Strength. When I shared my review here, many of you expressed a need for and an interest in developing a greater mindfulness in your approach to self-care. When you hop on over to April’s place to finish this post, be sure to check out other articles that also focus on spiritual practices for healthier living for your heart, soul, mind and strength.
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Thanks, Laurie!
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Beautiful post. And how true that true spiritual friendship requires sacrifice.
#GlobalBlogging
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Yes, and well worth the risk!
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Great post. I read the complete article and left a comment on April’s blog.
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Yes, and I do appreciate that so much!
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Hi Michele self care is an important topic to me and this month for March I am devoting my blog to #MakingMarchMeaningful. Creating a purpose and meaning in our lives as well as being more mindful helps us to live a richer life. Have a great week and visiting from @EsmeSalon
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Yes! Self care is one thing we overlook in our busy lives, but this is very short-sighted. Every area of life works better when we pay attention to our God-created needs for rest, nutrition, movement, relationship, etc.
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Self care always needs time spend on it #teinklytuesday
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Yes, and it’s an investment.
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In recent years, I’ve been making a concerted effort to invest in friendships. As an introvert, this has required great intention and discipline. But the rewards are immeasurable. Even on days when I’d like to curl up in my comfortable cocoon, I’ve never regretted the time I’ve spent with a friend. It does nourish the soul. We were created for fellowship – even introverts!
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That’s so true! The early church, New Testament believers, would be absolutely astonished at the idea that anyone could do the Christian life solo!
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We used to do a prayer partner thing at our church. That was such a blessing! Having an accountability partner/friend is so important and encouraging. Great post! Thanks for linking up at InstaEncouragements!
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Maybe it’s time to just find a prayer partner on your own? I imagine there are other women in your church who also miss the accountability! I hope you’ll look into it!
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I just read your review on this book, and I think I need to get it. Your words describe exactly what I think my life needs right now. Thank you for sharing.
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I hope it will be a great encouragement to you. I really appreciated the insights it offered!
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The earlier you learn to take of yourself the better, how else can you take good care of anyone?
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I love your posts, Michele, so I’m heading over right now! Woohoo! I know I’m in for a treat. 🤗
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You’ll enjoy April’s site. She’s a real resource on several fronts.
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I so resonate with this. Time with friends is one of the best things I do for my soul. And it is hard to come by these days. laurensparks.net
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It sure is! And when there’s time, we just need that little push out the door and into another person’s life!
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Excellent post!
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Thank you,. Bette!
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Love your posts and thank you so much for sharing your post this week at the #senisal Linkup.
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Thank you! And thanks for your hospitality!
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I love that Michele “seeing friendship as part of self care”. 😀
Blessings,
Jennifer
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Glad the thought resonated with you, Jennifer! Blessings to you!
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The sort of people I get messaging me stuff like that on Facebook really aren’t the sort of people you’d want to go meet lol
Debbie
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Ha! Ha! Ha!
I hear you!
I already knew this woman was a middle aged pastor’s wife and blogger, so my risk was minimal and mainly social!
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As another introvert, I’m learning to appreciate friendships more and more. Maybe it’s age. LOL. I’d like to think some of it is wisdom and understanding or at least growth in that direction.
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Yes, me too, and I’m grateful for those who have stuck with me through the years–when I can think of a million reasons why they shouldn’t have.
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Friendships are often the first thing neglected when life gets hectic, but they’re the thing that keep you sane! #GlobalBlogging
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You know, you’re right! Good point!
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Love this! We were never meant to go solo in our Christian life. The early church was mainly Jewish and the Jewish community was very much about connectivity and community. There were always at least pairs of them. It’s something we have lost over the centuries.
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That’s such a good observation, Diane! Thanks for bringing it!
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Fab read self care is so important Thanks for linking to #Thatfridaylinky hope to see you next week
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Thank YOU!
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Read the full post. I actually took some extra time reading because there were so many beautiful thoughts in this. I used to be a social butterfly but then for various reasons now I’m not. I need to be trying harder to be the one that is transparent and opens up first. This post definitely has spoke to my heart!!
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That’s good to know, April, and I think we tend to function in seasons socially. There are times when we crave social interaction, and I think it’s okay to have stints of hunkering down to process by ourselves. It’s good that you are aware of the need to be transparent and open.
May God lead you in this season of life.
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Thanks for sharing. Self care is vital. I am off to finish the post on April’s site. Great idea to share the post by the way. Thanks for sharing with the #DreamTeam
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I appreciate your reading!
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Must read the rest. xoxo
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❤
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Heading over to read more, but resonating with this topic already, Michele!
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Thanks, Beth!
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Friendships, really good ones, are nourishing in many ways. #thatfridaylinky xo
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Nourishing. Yes, what a good way of describing the life on life interaction of a true friend.
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If I lived at all cose to you, you’d be getting that message from me! Thanks for sharing this at Booknificent Thursday on Mommynificent.com!
Tina
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Oh, what fun!
I’d love that!
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