A senior executive at Focus on the Family, seminary graduate, and seasoned Christian, there was every reason to think that Bruce Peppin should have scaled the mountains of midlife with skill and enthusiasm. However, with his marriage and his family relationships deeply broken and his faith in God taking a nose dive, he realized that he had veered off course. His journey out of despair and defeat is the basis for The Best Is Yet to Be: Moving Mountains in Midlife, his five-part course correction manual for those of us who are hiking through or toward midlife. Just as a mountain climber keeps her eye on the summit, the goal of midlife is to finish well and in accordance with Peppin’s well-framed definition:
“To finish life in right relationship to my God, spouse, family, fellow man, and the work He gave me to do.”
With “gray divorce” at an all-time high, long-term marriage is no longer a given apart from the grace of God and a commitment to faithfulness. Peppin shares vulnerably how the Lord of the Breakthrough turned his own marriage around. Sin and poor judgment calls from the past have a way of cropping up in midlife. One’s own morality looms large, and this question even larger: How have I spent the life God has given?
Using powerful metaphors but plain speech, Peppin challenges his readers to follow six principles for decisions, relationships, and mindset that are essential for midlife, but helpful to have mastered beforehand. (The sooner the better!)
- Heroic invisibility: Living a life of integrity before an audience of One requires a realization that recognition is not the priority — honoring God is the path to true self-esteem.
- Famous in heaven: Living according to the standards of heaven, for applause from a heavenly stadium, yields right priorities.
- Decades not days: Taking a long view toward preparation for future assignments and accepting His timing acknowledges and bows to the sovereignty of God.
- Be ready: Assess readiness for scaling spiritual mountains by answering the following life-changing question: “If God was looking for someone to use on an important assignment for the kingdom, would you be the one He’d choose, given your present attitude, behavior, and choices?”
- Drink the cup: Climbing mountain peaks over fourteen thousand feet, Peppin has honed traits of dedication and perseverance. It is tempting to quit before reaching the summit. In the same manner, honoring commitments to the Lord requires the discipline of determination.
- Faithful to the end: Inspiring testimonies of mentors and historical figures who endured despite obstacles and finished their course in faithfulness to God drive home the point and provide powerful motivation and inspiration.
Apart from Christ, the uphill journey of middle age could seem discouraging and pointless, but the power of God’s Word can transform feelings of rejection, fear, and failure into powerful Christ-exalting expressions of God’s sufficiency. The Best Is Yet to Be challenges the reader to look beyond this life to consider the importance of a godly legacy. As Randy Alcorn has said, “Our present life on earth is the dot. It begins. It ends. It’s brief. But from that dot extends a line that goes on forever. That line is eternity which Christians will spend in heaven . . . Live for the line, not for the dot.” Peppin’s book stopped me in my tracks one afternoon as I considered the outcomes of finishing well: a life of integrity, courage and reward. There is food for thought here, but, more importantly, there is grist for one’s prayer life. “Lord, help me to remember, as I walk through midlife, that there is no reward on earth that can compare with Your well-done.”
This book was provided by David C. Cook in exchange for my honest review.