Digging Into Grace

In her third book, Gloria Furman promises “to drill down to the things that matter,” and her busy readers will find that she does, indeed, honor her word. The Pastor’s Wife was written in the small spaces between mothering four children and serving alongside her church-planting husband on the Arabian peninsula, so it is more than simply a job description or an “I feel your pain” encouragement card.   Gloria has written a mission statement wrapped around a practical theology lesson for ministry wives.  Her “drilling down” bypasses the stereotypes, the diatribes about roles, expectations, and needs, focusing instead on the truth that “we’re all in this over-arching circumstance of needing and receiving grace from Jesus.”

Gloria helps us to see that the focus and privilege of the pastor’s wife is three-fold:

1.  Loving the Chief Shepherd:  If God is my first love, I will not be trapped into making an idol of ministry, the opinions of others, my children, or any other circumstance or opportunity.  Living in the awareness that I exist to please God, I see all things in relation to Him, and am able to happily receive my position as a sheep, serving fellow-sheep in the flock of God.

2.  Loving an Under Shepherd:  Since the duties of an elder are clearly spelled out in I Timothy 3 and Titus 1, ministry wives (and all wives!) have a starting point, because Scripture also designates our role to be “helper” to our husband.  Gloria shares personal experiences and encouragement specifically related to these biblical qualifications, and then offers Psalm 121 for any whose hackles rise with the question, “Who’s going to help me?”

“My help comes from the Lord who made heaven and earth.”

Therefore, with God as her helper, the pastor’s wife can confidently serve her husband and family without feeling that this is “nominal and diminishing when compared to other opportunities she has to serve in and through the church.”  Relationships with other women (modeled on Titus 2) are also a rich resource for growing in the grace that is needed for serving alongside a servant in equipping the saints for the work of ministry.

3.  Loving the Bride of Christ:  The “robust ecclesiology” that undergirds part three of The Pastor’s Wife is an important foundation for anyone who believingly follows Jesus Christ.  Seen through the grid of New Testament truth, the church is “the spiritual temple in which [God] chooses to dwell.”  Acting with this knowledge base will elevate the life of the local church above the sometimes deadening routine of nursery schedules, potluck dinners, and business meetings devoted to “what-color-should-we-paint-the-ladies’- bathroom?”  As the most visible part of our theology, a Christ-centered church is a platform for displaying the grace of God through the gifts He bestows.

Whether reading from the unique perspective of a ministry wife, or simply from the position of a woman who wants to understand and support her pastor’s wife, there is rich truth in these page.  When Gloria wrote Glimpses of Grace, my youngest son was eleven, so I read the book in order to recommend it to the young women in my Sunday School class.  We are at very different phase of life, but what I have found is that the Scriptural truth behind her words is transcendent, and I always come away with concepts that I can’t wait to apply.  For example, in Section 2,  Ephesians 1:17-19 is trumpeted as the basis for seeking God’s help in a marriage that demonstrates God’s design:  “We need the Spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of God to enlighten the eyes of our hearts . . .”  The power by which we live is “according to the work of God’s great might that he worked in Christ when he raised him from the dead,” (v. 20); and we are privileged to serve Christ, who is “seated at His right hand in the heavenly places, far above all rule and authority and power and dominion . . . not only in this age but also in the one to come.”  This rich gospel orientation strips away all the questions that start with “how,” “what,” and “why,” with a laser focus on Christ, the object of and power behind all true ministry.   The Pastor’s Wife reveals service to Christ for what it is — pure grace.

This book was provided by Crossway in exchange for my honest review.

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19 thoughts on “Digging Into Grace”

  1. This book is on my “to read” list. Thank you for an excellent review! Visiting you from #TestimonyTuesday.


  2. As a fellow pastor’s wife, I’m intrigued! I’ll put this on my to-read list for the summer, thanks. 🙂 I’m stopping by today from Titus 2 Tuesday.
    Jen @ Being Confident of This


  3. I love this, Michele: “If God is my first love, I will not be trapped into making an idol of …” What truthful words I can apply as I evaluate where my priorities fall. Thank you, Michele, for sharing your heart and review at #IntentionalTuesday on Intentionally Pursuing. : )


  4. Sounds like a book I need to read. While I’m not a pastor’s wife, I am the wife of a private Christian school administrator – a lot of parallels exist! Thanks for the good review!


    1. Yes, this book is good for any woman involved in ministry because the truth is that there are many ways to live in the fish bowl! Gloria’s words of advice for the fish bowl: Keep swimming!


  5. This is the first read of this type that I’ve encountered. Many marvelous women, pastor’s wives, have crossed my path over the years. It’s good to see there is a resource to encourage them in their walk. Joining you today via #tellHisstory

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  6. I’m not a pastor’s wife, but would to read this anyway. My pastor has a wife, and I could buy it for her. However, I think it is most likely encouraging and useful for any of us in ministry. Interestingly, I will lead Bible study in the books of Titus, 1 & 2 Timothy this next school year.
    =) Thank you for your honest and encouraging review!


    1. Yes, I am not a pastor’s wife either, but he and I are both involved in ministry as volunteers — the book is an infusion of sound theology with great biblical “bones.”


  7. I get so excited when I see one of your reviews and add yet another book to my list. I have many friends who are Pastor’s Wives who need to be seen through the lens of love because so many of their roles keep them from feeling that. Thanks for the reminder.


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