The email landed in my inbox from a total stranger, and it arrived with an almost audible thud so heavy were the emotions it carried. It came from the heart of an expectant mother who had just received the news that the baby she was carrying was a boy. She had been hoping for a girl, because she had read discouraging accounts of mother-son relationships and was spiraling into disappointment.
Her feelings of dread were rooted in her family of origin. Her two brothers, now adults, were not at all close to their mum, and looking around, she believed her bias was confirmed with evidence from other families in which the daughters were close to their mums—while the sons were not.
She presented her fear in this way:
Will my son still want to have a relationship with me when he is a man? Will I be replaced by a wife and her family? Is it true that “a son is a son till he takes a wife, but a daughter’s a daughter for the rest of her life”?
She had stumbled across some of my work online, had read about my life with four growing-up sons, and she wrote looking for reassurance. Was I close to my teen and adult sons? Would I share a little about my experience of building a relationship with them? Did I have thoughts on how much of the relationship I have with them is due to their personality and how much is our home environment?
Her questions and concerns led to an email correspondence that uncovered the depth of her fears and pushed me to put into words some of the foundations and principles that had been guiding my parenting life with much-loved sons. Since the correspondence happened as a Q&A, I’ll open my email inbox and invite you to sit right here around the glowing screen with whatever fears you bring to the table about “losing” your son one day when he grows up.
I’m sharing tips on building a bond that lasts over at The Joyful Life Magazine. It’s my goal to encourage you in your mothering life, so together, let’s examine the finer points of putting your worries to rest and maintaining a warm closeness in that sweet mother-son relationship.
Holding you in the Light,
Will my son still be close to me when he’s a man? Will I “lose him” when he grows up and gets married? Today, I’m writing about one big fear boy mums share. @joyfullifemagTweet
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