Parenting Insights for Raising Good Husbands, and Strong Fathers

3 Parenting Insights for Raising Emotionally Healthy Men, Good Husbands, and Strong Fathers

Remember when most households consisted of a married couple and their children? Friends my age who grew up in single-parent homes back in the 60s and 70s have confided to me that they felt the weight of their uniqueness in the pit of their stomachs. By contrast, statistics reveal today the proportion of households consisting of married couples is less than half!

With marriage feeling so very “optional” in our present-day culture, how do we communicate its value and significance to our sons? We may feel as if we are walking a semantic tightrope when we hold marriage up as the ideal context for raising children and building a home, for fear that we might offend someone who has made different lifestyle choices or wound a friend who is living with the result of a very-much-unwanted divorce. In a world where “family” means something different to everyone, how can we teach our sons to value marriage and to aspire to be loving husbands and involved fathers?

Parents communicate their own attitudes toward marriage in subtle and surprising ways, and if it’s your goal to raise young men who will reverse the troubling cultural trend toward fatherless homes, if you want to parent emotionally healthy men, good husbands, and strong fathers, consider reading my article over at the Joyful Life Magazine. CLICK HERE for a deep dive into three areas of growth in your own life that will communicate volumes to your growing boys.

In partnership with our husbands, we are privileged to be the hopeful visionary, the marriage cheerleader who speaks blessing over our son, preparing him to launch into a promising future as a man of character with solid family values.

And Now Let’s Talk Books…

Blank Canvas

Marcy Gregg’s story begins with the happy ending: her first solo art show and the loving support of family and friends. Who would have guessed that twenty-five years before, Marcy woke up from a coma with no memory of her husband, her two sons, her new baby, or anything about the past thirteen years of her life?

When her memory failed to return, the continual pressure of bluffing her way through life shook Marcy to the core and rendered all her coping strategies useless. Her healing process began when she recognized her weakness.

Marcy’s interest in painting emerged like a lost memory. Loading huge canvases with paint became a spiritual practice and put the truth of Philippians 4:13 on display: In Christ’s strength, she was able to believe that her painting would be a tool for spreading God’s Word.

Blank Canvas is an uncluttered memoir in which the author shares her story without becoming bogged down in self help or “devotionalizing.” The blank canvas of memory loss proved to be a devastating challenge, but trust in God freed Marcy to look beyond the blank canvas and to see a new beginning.

What “missing pieces” from your own life could become, instead, a space reserved for God’s creative work?

Holding you in the Light,

While God had saved Marcy Gregg’s life, he did not save 13 years of her memories. #BlankCanvas is a challenge to see the missing pieces of your life as a space reserved for God’s creative work. @TyndaleHouse #bookreview

Is It Time for You to “Get to Know God?”

What is your concept of God?

I recently heard from a reader, awake at 3:00 a.m., and downloading my latest free resource: “Although I have been a follower most of my life I have never really tried to get to know God.” She had decided that Isaiah 43 was a good place to start.

How about you?

This guided meditation based on Isaiah 43 highlights the truth that we live and work according to our concept of God. What if you began every day with the conviction that God, YOUR God identifies himself as the God who does a new thing, who makes a path through the wilderness, who blots out your transgressions and says, “Fear not!”

I’m committed to the truth that women can become confident followers of God and students of his word, and it’s my goal to provide resources to help you along that path. Subscribers receive them automatically, and you can receive your copy by simply entering your email and then clicking on the button below…

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Many thanks to Tyndale House for providing a copy of this book to facilitate my review, which is, of course, offered freely and with honesty.

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31 thoughts on “3 Parenting Insights for Raising Emotionally Healthy Men, Good Husbands, and Strong Fathers”

  1. I grew up in a single parent household in the 70s. Probably about a third of my friends were also from single parent families. I don’t remember feeling marginalized. I do think nowadays that men have a difficult time if they do go through a divorce. The courts seem to side with the mother and a father stands to lose everything and become marginalized himself. The whole situation is just very sad.

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  2. I sort of think it’s not so much the attitude to marriage but teach them to be good men – to treat their partner with respect, and be interested in their lives and thoughts. That Andrew Tate really opened my eyes to what kind of men are out there. You really need to discuss that sort of thing with your children. (I was relieved when I asked my son if he listened to Tate and he burst out laughing in my face as that was going to be a very uncomfortable sex talk. Who knew people needed to be told not to much someone in the face during sex??) Anyway, a lot of people do follow him so some people’s sons do need that conversation…But, if you aren’t violent or abusive, if you are supportive and thoughtful, there’s a good chance your marriage will last…(though even that isn’t 100% because life is hard…) #Dreamteam

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      1. Terrifying stuff. He’s all over the news here. I’d not heard of him either until there were parental warnings going out. Apparently his market is 14 year old boys….training bad attitudes into the young.

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  3. Raising godly and responsible young men has been one of my highest goals, since I’m a mom of three sons. I’m so thankful that not only have my sons grown up to be wonderful men – two are husbands and fathers – but my daughter has found a very fine young man as well. My husband and I did our best, but God gets the glory!

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  4. As a child of divorce, I understood the importance of the traditional family home. As my boys have grown up, experienced other families, they have found greater value in how we have shepherded them and the home we created for them. We are not perfect, we have our challenges, but we discuss faith and politics, we love unconditionally, we strive for honesty and respect. We just celebrated our 39th anniversary – and – I’ve always said my mission statement is to show my boys how to grow old loving the Lord – both my husband and I – and to experience how we face the challenges in that. Commitment is a powerful thing! Way to tackle a topic that should be a given in a culture that doesn’t always appreciate that kind of convenant!

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  5. I loved the article you wrote for The Joyful Life. It is so important to model a healthy marriage for our kids. Now I get to see how my sons live that out in their own marriages.

    Blank Canvas sounds like an amazing memoir. I am going to put it on my list. Have a great week.

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  6. Oh my, Michele! Boy, I’m almost at a loss of words here. This message is such a paramount and compelling article. I grew up in a loving Christian family and had a wonderful relationship with my dad. It didn’t mean that we didn’t but heads from time to time. Bless you, for sharing this.

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  7. I have seen and lived both sides of the two-parent, single-parent issue. While I grew up in a two-parent home, flawed as it was, it did give a lot of stability to my life. But as a young married in the 70s, I bought into the lie that my kids would be fine if I divorced. That led to lots of heartache. But I have also seen all too many instances where one parent is forced to be a single parent because of abuse or the other parent’s choice to leave. I’m walking alongside someone who is faced with that situation right now. And it’s heart-breaking!

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  8. Michele, I always learn so much from your perspectives on raising boys that I can apply to my own family. I’m forever grateful to have had the father that I did, and that my girls have the father that they have. I pray that the men they marry someday will have parents who model a healthy marriage too.

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    1. You’ve put your finger on such an important factor in our kids’ futures. In-laws make a huge difference and the families merge so much more easily when everyone is healthy.

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  9. I don’t have sons, but I have always believed modeling a God-centered marriage will pay off in future generations.

    I definitely want to read Blank Canvas! I can’t imagine life without my memories!

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  10. Michele-that’s a great article. I especially think the call to cherish the son’s father is extremely important. I see so often in marriages (including my own) that we don’t show the cherishing that we might feel or know in our own hearts and minds. Our children need to see it. Thank you for the reminder!

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