Having arrived and having now spent a few years in the season of the empty nest, I feel qualified to report on my findings. You may be surprised…
I think we’re always surprised when the good we anticipate turns out to be hard. Understand, I’m not saying that good and hard are opposites. However, in the days of raising and homeschooling four sons, when I was scaling Mount Laundry every day and meal-planning like Hannibal crossing the Alps, I would sometimes try to picture a world that didn’t revolve around full-time parenting. In that world, I would learn to play the piano. I would drink my tea when it was hot—and even have time for a second cup as I spent hours reading and writing. I would manicure my immaculate garden and serve as an ESL tutor or a library volunteer.
That energetic thirty-something-year-old woman doesn’t live here anymore. She has been replaced by a sixty-something-year-old woman with a degenerative neurological disease, eight grandchildren, and a part-time job. This is a wonderful season of life. And it is also a weary season.
It encourages me to read that Paul must have experienced weariness in the course of his busy life. He wrote, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up” (Galatians 6:9). He had discovered that in the course of “doing good,” we might find ourselves losing interest, experiencing fatigue, or encountering obstacles that tempt us to quit. And then he shares the simple (but not easy) remedy for weariness: Don’t give up!
I think we’re always surprised when the good we anticipate turns out to be hard. Understand, I’m not saying that good and hard are opposites.
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What Grows in Weary Lands?
Tish Harrison Warren is one of my favorite writers on spiritual formation, and she also encountered a season of intense and unexpected weariness. She had written for The New York Times for nearly two years, her dream job, meeting deadlines and writing about issues that were important to her. Suddenly, writing became a chore, family responsibilities became overwhelming, and, worst of all, God seemed distant and uncommunicative.
She discovered that her weariness was not unique to the 21st century. Christians have been writing about it for centuries, often referring to it as acedia or the dark night. Historic Christians became Warren’s path back to flourishing, not because life got easier, but because her perspective changed. She found that “the holiest people in Christianity’s history… have returned, again and again, to a common question: How do you keep going?” What Grows in Weary Lands is the fruit of her own earnest seeking.
Chapter titles frame the book’s message in the language of the early church fathers and mothers who mentored their students and apprentices with phrases like “stay in your cell” (stick with your commitments), “pledge your body to the walls” (stop looking for change as a solution to everything), “relax the bow” (trust God and be still), and “let the silt settle” (carve out room for silence).
There is abundant hope to be found in the truth that there are some things that will grow only in the desert. We become spiritual cacti when our work is continually being watered by the gracious realization that all does not depend on us.
Warren advocates for a sacred pace that allows for reasonable rhythms of work and rest, of worship and service. Part of our training may require an evaluation of our relationship with our phones, an adjustment of our attitude toward our bodies, or a commitment to become more deeply embedded in spiritual community.
What Grows in Weary Lands invites the reader to live our following life where our feet are standing and to shed the delusions of grandeur that keep us looking for a loftier way to love the Lord. “The things of God, it turns out, are surprisingly prosaic, ordinary, and unimpressive. If salvation is to meet us at all, it must meet us in the slog… God rends the heavens to meet us in the last place that we expect to find him: exactly where we are.”
In What Grows in Weary Lands, @Tish_H_Warren shares wisdom from church fathers and mothers, advocating for a sacred pace that allows for reasonable rhythms of work and rest, of worship and service. @ConvergentBooks
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I reviewed Tish’s previous book, Prayer in the Night, HERE.
I’m currently rereading Liturgy of the Ordinary, which I reviewed HERE way back in 2017.
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“We become spiritual cacti …” You are so right in saying there are things which will only grow in the desert. That growth is something which always becomes most precious and remembered in my life. This is a wonderful review and one I now want to read as well. Thank you!
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Sounds like a want to read! Such a good description of life on this season. From babysitting a grandson, now to grand dogs and an overflowing house in seasons of transition, it is nothing like that sipping tea or drinking coffee and enjoying the quiet version of retirement! To watching and calculating every step and activity against the ankle … Ah how this one hits home… ~ Rosie
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