Caregiving: Wisdom for the Sandwich Generation

Caregiving, Sandwich generation, Elderly parents

I heard her footsteps on the stairs one night — jolted out of a sound sleep and into the familiar world of worry. Step, click, pause. The foot, the cane, the balance check. Exhaling in the dark, I realized . . . no.  I had been dreaming.  She’s not here anymore.  She’s walking in safety… Continue reading Caregiving: Wisdom for the Sandwich Generation

Standing and Waiting with Those Who Suffer

The words of 17th century poet John Milton from On His Blindness, come to mind with every visit to my mother's long-term care facility:  "They also serve who only stand and wait." I hope it's true, and I'd love to report that in the midst of my waiting we have warm and meaningful conversations or… Continue reading Standing and Waiting with Those Who Suffer

The New Mommy Guilt: Putting Your Parent in a Care Facility

I heard her footsteps on the stairs last night -- jolted out of a sound sleep and into the familiar world of worry. Step, click, pause. The foot, the cane, the balance check. Exhaling in the dark, I realized . . . no.  I had been dreaming.  She’s not here anymore.  She’s walking in safety… Continue reading The New Mommy Guilt: Putting Your Parent in a Care Facility