Finding a Network of Life-Giving Friendship

Friendship is a life-giving gift in which we don't run away. We do the opposite.

The layers of life, in all their overwhelming proportions, call for a large God. The unexpected diagnosis, the many ways in which we disappoint ourselves, and the messiness of the generations all seem to come home to roost during middle age as parents depart this world and adult children come into their own. Margie Nethercott… Continue reading Finding a Network of Life-Giving Friendship

An Invitation to the Generative Life

A review of Culture Care by Makoto Fujimura and a case for creativity as part of our everyday lives.

Our first summer living on this country hill, the budget was tight and luxuries were few.  I had planted a garden that seemed huge to me at the time, and a friend, intending to surprise me, weeded the entire plot as a generous gift from the heart.  How could she have known that those random… Continue reading An Invitation to the Generative Life

Invited into the Deep Welcome of Friendship

Hospitality requires me to boldly welcome others into the mess that is me.

Across the miles they drove, journeying four hours north on washboard roads until they reached this country hill. “We want to talk about the conference,” they had said on the phone.  “We can fill you in on the details in person.  The more you know about us, the easier it will be for you to… Continue reading Invited into the Deep Welcome of Friendship

Musings: May 2018

God promises to complete the work He has begun in you. Philippians 1:6

Every spring, property owners here in Maine cede our rights over to the blackfly population. With their serrated jaws and overwhelming numbers, they swarm by the hundreds, drawn by breath and body heat, and driving even the most determined souls back into the safety of our homes. When my four sons were all small and… Continue reading Musings: May 2018

Caregiving: Wisdom for the Sandwich Generation

Caregiving, Sandwich generation, Elderly parents

I heard her footsteps on the stairs one night — jolted out of a sound sleep and into the familiar world of worry. Step, click, pause. The foot, the cane, the balance check. Exhaling in the dark, I realized . . . no.  I had been dreaming.  She’s not here anymore.  She’s walking in safety… Continue reading Caregiving: Wisdom for the Sandwich Generation

Two Reasons to Give the Church Another Chance

When my husband and I were still a “young couple,” we used to laugh over an imagined scenario at our church: “What ever happened to that young couple with all the boys?” “Haven’t you heard?  They divorced – someone said that they just grew apart, that they didn’t know each other anymore.” “No!  They were… Continue reading Two Reasons to Give the Church Another Chance

Loving My Mid-Life Christmas

For the past several years, change has been the only constant in our Christmas celebration. Grown up sons marry, pack up their collection of treasured ornaments, and hang them on their own trees. College guys come home when they can and join in the fun on an intermittent schedule. Teens branching into individualized creativity grab… Continue reading Loving My Mid-Life Christmas

Faith Going Forward: A Mid-Life Following

I can just barely admit this, but I have finally hauled all the cassette tapes -- John Michael Talbot, Carole King, Billy Joel -- out from under my bed. And I’m going to throw them away. Letting go of this one thing may not free my hands to grab hold of an entire universe, but… Continue reading Faith Going Forward: A Mid-Life Following