How to Put an End to the Mommy Wars

How to Put an End to the Mommy Wars

One of the great gifts of living past middle age has been the opportunity for meaningful connections with younger women. Through conversations about faith, parenting, or the challenges of ministry, I hear their hopes for stronger marriages and sympathize with their sleep-deprived discouragement over whatever discipline challenges their kids are dishing out. I’m thankful when… Continue reading How to Put an End to the Mommy Wars

Discovering the Love of God on the Pathway of Adversity

Discovering the Love of God on the Pathway of Adversity

I've been writing obliquely about my Parkinson's disease diagnosis for the past year or more, but today the story takes center stage in an interview with Lois Flowers. She asks probing questions that tease out the details of my story, but more than that—it's a conversation about what C.S. Lewis would have called The Problem… Continue reading Discovering the Love of God on the Pathway of Adversity

How Can Mothers Instill Vibrant Faith in Their Families?

How Can Mothers Instill Vibrant Faith in Their Families?

Spaghetti sauce bubbles in a pot on the stove, the rich red depths of the kettle wafting fragrance throughout the house. The annual ritual spans three decades:  garden-grown tomatoes, hand-picked, and placed into a basket become jars of winter provision. After all, my four sons could eat a lot of pasta! But this pot of… Continue reading How Can Mothers Instill Vibrant Faith in Their Families?

Two Strategies for Navigating in a World of Temporary Connections

Two Strategies For Navigating In A World Of Temporary Connections

I was sitting on the attic floor sorting through hand-me-downs when the phone rang, and a bridge began to crumble. Through tears, via a clunky cordless phone, my friend dropped the bomb. She and her family would be leaving our church—the church where our kids had misbehaved together and where she and I had moved… Continue reading Two Strategies for Navigating in a World of Temporary Connections

Commit Your Minutes to the Hard Work of Reaching Your Goal

Hard Work of Reaching Your Goal

When I am in the process of turning bright red tomatoes into fragrant and delicious spaghetti sauce in my kitchen, I’m usually working with inexact measures. The recipe may call for nine cups of tomato puree, but my garden produces whatever seems right in that season. Measuring the herbs that flavor the sauce is definitely… Continue reading Commit Your Minutes to the Hard Work of Reaching Your Goal

Seize Teachable Moments and Point Children Toward a Loving God

Seize Teachable Moments Point Children Toward Loving God

On the first Sunday of every month, everyone in our Sunday school gathers in the sanctuary for a short teaching time followed by muffins, juice, coffee, and shenanigans before the sticky trail of crumbs takes us all to our regular classes. When I can, I like to use that time to reassure the kids that… Continue reading Seize Teachable Moments and Point Children Toward a Loving God

How Can I Discourage My Son’s Potty Mouth and Encourage Good Manners?

Discourage Potty Mouth Encourage Good Manners

A tall platform at the Colorado Springs Zoo gives patrons a once-in-a-lifetime, eyeball-to-eyeball experience with giraffes, the gentle giants of the animal kingdom. Not quite two, my little grandson fed lettuce leaves to his new tame and very attentive friends. “Look at those big brown eyes!” I crowed. “Big, beautiful eyes like yours!” “Long purple… Continue reading How Can I Discourage My Son’s Potty Mouth and Encourage Good Manners?

How To Cultivate a Healthy Relationship with Time When You’re Hardwired for Hurry

Cultivate a Healthy Relationship with Time When You're Hardwired for Hurry

“Do you always read to your kids like that?” she queried. My friend was referring to my rendition of a Dr. Seuss classic delivered at tongue-twister speed from a rocking chair in the church nursery: “Would you like them in a house?Would you like them with a mouse?Would you eat them in a box?Would you… Continue reading How To Cultivate a Healthy Relationship with Time When You’re Hardwired for Hurry

Solid Theology and the Gift of Community: Keys to Resilient Mothering

Resilient Mothering

Along the wooded trail behind my home, a birch tree arches in a graceful curve as it stretches across the pathway. It’s a veteran of a good many northern New England ice storms and knows what it is to bow low under a weight of snow and frozen rain. Even though its tip-top branches have… Continue reading Solid Theology and the Gift of Community: Keys to Resilient Mothering

Do You Think There Is Such a Thing as a Successful Prayer Life?

Before asking myself whether prayer works, let me first define my terms. Is prayer a lever for moving the universe according to my whims, or is it a tool for molding my will to God’s?

The spring of 2019 showed up bleak and gray, but we barely noticed. The weight of waiting occupied every minute, with question marks bristling where daffodils had been delayed. An army of friends prayed for our family when we could not, waging war on our behalf, inquiring with kindness about obstacles that made no sense… Continue reading Do You Think There Is Such a Thing as a Successful Prayer Life?